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The
Change Process and Coaching – Part II Last month’s issue of Coaching Mastery News addressed ways that coaches can assist their clients to understand and navigate through change. This month continues with the change process, specifically how coaches can assist their clients to become more aware of their internal dialogue to achieve success. In discussing the change process with coaches in my Coaching Mastery groups, I hear questions concerning how to be more effective when clients hit a wall, when fear emerges and the client’s inner critic is speaking very loudly. “I feel like I’m coaching my client’s Gremlin,” one coach says. “My Gremlin is telling me I’m not the right coach for this client,” comments another. Sound familiar? Imagine having a tool in your coaching toolkit that can assist your clients to gain clarity about their internal dialogue---the thoughts that support them in moving forward and those that sabotage their efforts to achieve success. This summer I participated in an assessment training program with such a tool, Og Mandino’s SIX ADVISORS™. This powerful assessment opens the door to greater awareness and understanding of the dimensions of our internal dialogue, specifically the thoughts that foster success and those that hold us back in our lives. These six dimensions or ‘advisors’ are divided into two groups of three, our external world and our internal world. The
three advisors that comprise our external world, or how we
relate to others are:
The three advisors that comprise our internal world, or how we relate to ourselves are:
One of the requirements of the training was for each participant to become a ‘product of the product’. I agreed to complete the assessment and incorporate certain personal development strategies into my own life based on the results from the assessment report. As a firm believer that the learning begins with me before I bring it into my coaching relationships, I was ready! I began by completing an on-line assessment called the Hartman Values Profile. This profile is an axiological inventory which measures a person's capacity to make value judgments concerning the world and one's self. It consists of two parts: Part I is a list of 18 items pertaining to the world, and Part II consists of 18 phrases related to the self. The assessment took me approximately 20 minutes to complete, and I was then sent a report that provided me with the results. My report was reviewed with me by a Certified SIX ADVISORS Coach who did a masterful job of weaving the results into a coaching conversation. I was struck by the accuracy of the results. It was uncanny and not like any other assessment I had ever completed. In addition, I liked the way my coach emphasized my strengths, or my ‘best Advisors’ in giving me feedback. We also talked about the impact of my weaker Advisors, and he explained that rather than battling weaknesses, we would build on my strengths. Sounded like a true coach-approach to me! What happened next is still a bit surprising to me. I was given a copy of Og Mandino’s book The Greatest Salesman in the World. Some of you reading this newsletter have probably heard of Og’s book which has sold more than 14,000,000 copies. It was completely new to me. I read the story of the camel boy, Hafid, followed by the Ten Scrolls. My coach suggested that I read the second scroll on a daily basis. The scroll begins as follows, “I will greet this day with love in my heart”. He explained that this scroll would be help me to develop a heightened level of awareness of my Empathy-Intuition Advisor, my strongest advisor. I have to admit, I was a bit skeptical. After all, coaching is not a one-size-fits-all profession. What did this have to do with my internal dialogue anyway? However, I was committed to the process, and I approached the scroll with an open mind and heart. That was eight weeks ago… This has been a summer of amazing shifts for me. While I attribute these shifts to a variety of factors, there is no doubt that the work I have done with SIX ADVISORS has greatly impacted my life. I am much more aware of my thought processes, and I am able to ‘call forth’ my strongest advisors to guide me in making conscious choices. In addition, I recognize when the volume of noise from my weaker advisors has been turned up, and I can step back and observe what is occurring in my life that needs attention. That, in itself, is extraordinarily empowering! I am excited about this tool and the benefits it brings to my work with clients. We all experience challenges with clients who sabotage their efforts to achieve success because of long-standing habits and patterns, magical thinking, fear, procrastination and unrealistic expectations. The SIX ADVISORS provides clients with greater awareness of the thoughts that contribute to and interfere with achieving success. As I have learned first-hand, it is extremely empowering and invaluable to the coaching relationship! Interested
in learning more about SIX ADVISORS? See Upcoming Events
teleseries listed below. COACHING MASTERY UPDATE Coaching Mastery™ is an ongoing process of discovery and learning about who we are as coaches and as human beings. The learning comes from stepping back and examining our coaching relationships: the timeless moments, the more challenging ones, and everything in between. For each of us to become a masterful coach, we must remain open to the infinite learning opportunities we are given each time we answer the telephone or sit across from a client. Coaching
Mastery™ groups provide coaches with a safe learning
environment to further develop their coaching excellence.
Here’s what two participants had to say about their recent group experience: Spring,
2004 Level I participant: "As a newer coach,
the Coaching Mastery telegroup was an ideal complement to
my coach training. With expert facilitation and personal experience,
Lisa creates a safe and productive space for the group to
discuss challenges, explore possibilities, and create solutions.
In just 6 short weeks I was able to dramatically increase
my confidence as a coach and implement practical suggestions
to better attract and serve clients." Winter
2004 Level II participant: “I have long
known Lisa Kramer to be a seasoned, caring, and effective
coach. I have also known her to be an engaging and enjoyable
teleclass leader. But now I know, perhaps, one of the more
important reasons that Lisa is here on the Planet. Lisa is
an incredibly sensitive and honoring "Master" of
the Coaching Mastery process. She brings coaches together
to explore the nature of the craft...she handles the coaching
situations as the art forms that they are...and she responds
quickly to the changing rhythms of the sessions. I highly
recommend her Coaching Mastery to everyone who is ready to
move deeper inside this artful and wonderful profession".
Upcoming Events Managing
Your SIX ADVISORS - Two-part teleseries on August 19 &
26 OR September 9 & 16 September
14 – November 9, 2004: Relationship Coaching with Couples
October
1, 2004: Business Success Partnerships – The Power of
Two
Copyright © 2004. Permission is granted to reproduce, copy, or distribute the Coaching Mastery™ News as long as nothing is added, changed, or deleted, and this copyright notice is attached. The author is Lisa Kramer, Living with Intention Coaching, Training and Coaching Mastery™ www.livingwithintention.com |
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